Alternate title – Don’t Put YOUR Sh*t on Me.
Are you projecting onto others what is yours? Your dysfunctional programs might just love that but it’s not serving you, others or the world. It’s certainly not serving this ascension project. Ready to let go of that yet?
First, there’s the concept of “mirroring”. Basically, if something about someone else really bothers you, you more than likely have that very same issue yourself and you don’t like it in yourself any more than you do in others and yet you deny that it is yours. Like stepping up to a mirror, seeing you have something on your face and you try to wipe it off… in your reflection.
And this might be about a character trait that is not even “bad” per se, but one’s programming has made them think it is bad.
One tact you might consider is to actually allow yourself to consciously express this trait that you have, that you see mirrored in others and yet that bothers you so. Perhaps then you can break away from being so judgy about it.
Projection is a little different than mirroring. One significant difference between mirroring and projection is that with mirroring, both parties share the same traits or issues or perhaps even complementary issues, whereas with projection the one doing the projection is the one who has these traits or issues and puts that on others as if other people have these issues when they don’t.
Programmed humans are also into that whole misery loves company thing, hanging out with people with similar issues and programs. Life in an echo chamber. They’ll speak of resonance but what are they supposedly “resonating” with? Each other’s dysfunction? Yep, similar frequency and issues. It’s called codependency folks.
And they just hate it when someone or something comes along and stirs their pot. They like their little codependent “friends” (with friends like that…) and call them their teammates but anyone who is not right in stride with them are seemingly not their teammate.
I love sports analogies, most especially where the word “team” comes up. So, this person would be like a member of a high school sports team. They’re a Sophomore (and in real life and spiritually really rather sophomoric to boot) and they will only see other Sophomores as their teammates. The Freshman, Juniors and Seniors, in their warped reality, are somehow not their teammates. *scratching head*
But whether they consciously realize it or not, when new and fresh input comes along, they ARE having Divine-level resonance. It’s just also affecting their little “demons” / disempowered programs / conditioning, which are re-acting. So… resonance with something that is true will be indicated by a strong emotional response, which may not always be a warm and fuzzy feeling or even an “ah ha” moment. Instead it might be very intense denial or rejection… or projection. Hey those little demons / programs recognize healing wisdom when they see / hear it and that’s the last thing they want. They’ll fight it tooth and nail.
Once, over several months, myself and others witnessed a lightworker who obviously had anger issues. From what I could tell, by both things said and the outward symptoms – usually coming in the form of projection – they had pent up anger. Anger was a “bad” thing according to some “program” implanted in them, probably in childhood. I’ve seen this person say since then that as a child, they were indeed told not to express anger. One of their readers (codependents) had some anger projection issues also and in their case they witnessed an awful lot of anger from someone else when they were a child. Perhaps it scared them and they made the subconscious association that “anger = bad / scary / wrong”. So they too would repress and project.
These people’s “inner child” probably had a whole lot of anger and could stand to express it. Their unexpressed / stuffed down anger had no place to go. It was their traveling companion. And as much as this person so wanted to put on rose-colored glasses, their anger issues made them see red… everywhere. If someone came along and stirred their pot so that they could get a bit of a glimpse of that sludge at the bottom that they so desperately tried to ignore – intentionally doing so or just innocently triggering this LW’s issues, doesn’t matter which – then came the projection. They kept saying others were angry when they were not. They’d ask others why they hold so much anger within them when it was they themselves doing that.
They also said anger as if it’s a bad thing, something to be avoided at all costs. Not a healthy perspective.
They also love to go on about joy. I told them that if they were really tapping into TRUE JOY, then anger wouldn’t scare them – not their own or anyone else’s… and I told them that anger was ok. And it is. Anger happens. Let it.
They kept doing the whole “put on a happy face” thing and kept talking about all the joy they have… as if they were trying to talk themselves into it. Perhaps they’d best tap into that joy by being authentic in their emotional expression ALWAYS.
Don’t say you’re up when you’re down
~ Tears for Fears – “Elemental”
This reminds me – I’d heard this lead guitarist interviewed. He also wrote songs and he’d come to realize that if the band members were having to tap their foot in order to keep time while playing the song, then there was something not so right about the song.
And if someone has to keep telling themselves they are joyful, something is not so right with their “song” either.
Joy is who we are. Not something to look for. Just allow it.
And how will you know your True Self in your True Joy if you keep judging emotions as bad, stuff them down and then project your emotions onto others? They’re YOUR emotions, own ’em… and for goodness sakes, express ’em. If not, you’re not healed / healing. You might fool yourself in that regard but you’re not fooling anyone else.
Has someone stirred your pot and showed you what further work you have to do? Did you kill the messenger when you could have been thanking them? The messenger is there for your sake. The Divine sent them, whether you or they are even consciously aware.
Also see Understanding Tools.