Enabling Others’ Dysfunction

… which is dysfunctional on your part, if you’re doing it.

I recently read an article from someone who was basically asking lightworkers to step up.  Overall it was an ok article.  One thing I read there though jumped out at me as it was way off base and very disempowering.

They basically had made up a list, sorta like “You may still have work to do if…” and made a list of experiences one may be having.

But this one item was “If you are still being triggered and are triggering others.”

Err!  Wrong answer!  … to the last half of that.

You cannot and do not even want to try to make yourself responsible for others’ triggers.  That does not serve you or other.  You are taking on burdens that are not yours.  You’re walking on eggshells for others’ buttons and triggers.  The world is full of people with a whole lot of different buttons and triggers.  Are you going to remember all their triggers and walk on eggshells for each different issue?  That’s a lot to keep track of.  What if walking on eggshells for one person triggers the next person?  What will you do then?  That’s quite the jig you’re dancing there… to please others… over their issues.  Theirs.  Don’t stake claim to their crap.

And you’re not doing the other any good by walking on their eggshells.  You’re sending the other the message that what they are doing is ok, that their blow up because you bumped into their trigger is ok to aim at you and you will just adjust for it.  SO messed up.

In that moment of you triggering them, there are a whole lot of empowering messages you could bring to them right then, but what, instead you’re going to just enable their continued dysfunction… and yours?

They might ask, “Why are you pushing my buttons?”  They are asking the wrong question.  The question is – Why do they have the button?  You might ask them, “Whose?  Whose button?”

One more time we come back to Power and Responsibility going hand in hand.  You have absolutely no Power over the next person’s triggers.  They have some healing to do there and you can’t do it for them, so why would you want to try to take Responsibility for those triggers?

But here again, you do have influence.  So rather than doing some hippy dance on a world full of eggshells, you instead remind the other they were just triggered and it’s THEIR trigger and they could stand to own it and by doing so they will start to heal that issue associated with their trigger.  Now THAT is called shining one’s light.  You’ve communicated through your words and also through your actions, including demonstrating that you are not about to enable someone’s continued dysfunction by tip toeing around them and their triggers and issues.

That right there is a true expression of Love and Compassion.