But it can be hell in the hallway.
And yet that time in the hallway is very healing. Hell, hall, heal. Huh.
I’ve seen many a conditioned soul, who knows they really need to let something or someone go and yet they’re in a scramble to find its / their replacement before they let the first thing / person go… so scared to be alone or go without or not have everything planned out.
It’d be much healthier and healing to release what you need to and allow yourself that healing hallway time.
One key thing is to demonstrate to the Universe – through your choices on where you put your energies – that you value yourself. If you won’t do that why would you expect others to do so? Ya know. The Universe will faithfully reflect your creations back to you.
You release what you need to out of self-love, self-respect, self-care.
Let go of people, partnerships, jobs, whatever, BEFORE the new comes to replace it. And that’s really the proper order of things. Some say to “make room”. I like to say you don’t put a new building on an old, crumbling foundation.
When you release something / someone and take some down time, then you can mourn if need be, which even includes mourning things you’re glad to let go of.
And you can also process what you just came out of and where you’d like to go… instead of just bringing all the old crap with ya, getting a new partner or job or whatever that looks remarkably like the old one, because you’re still in a repeating pattern… because you didn’t allow any down time in between to sort through the growth, learning and healing opportunities that old relationship or situation provided you.
The hallway time has its place. As much as I like to tell folks “don’t tell yourself you can’t know something”, there are going to be times when you just don’t know what’s going on, what you just came out of, what’s next. Sometimes ya just gotta let the mystery be… and spend some time in the hallway.
“Listen, it may feel like hell, but, sometimes, lost is where you need to be. Just because you don’t know your direction doesn’t mean you don’t have one.” ~ Battlestar Galactica