Self Love

If someone asked me to name just one thing and only one thing that is critical for ascension I’d have to say Self Love.

And heading off down the path to Self Love will involve learning and healing an awful lot more than just what one might initially think of as Self Love.

If Self Love is the goal sitting out on the horizon, then pull yourself back to the present moment and see what the current next step in that direction is.  The Divine would be happy to help – just ask.

Your ultimate in Self-Love goal will be at the end of many steps, many dominoes having to fall to get to that goal.  It might surprise you what all various disempowering programs will be discovered and will have to be released in order to get to your Self-Love goal.

Regardless of how one gets to Self Love, both the goal and the journey is what opens doors and opens one’s eyes to so much more.

The “self love is bad” program really hits to the core of so many problems in this world.  Think about it for a second.  Just pull yourself up out of all this human drama, your own included, and think about that – a program put in people’s psyches that makes them not love themselves.  Just about can’t get more debilitating than that.

I’d recently quoted someone who said that love of God and Self Love are one and the same.  That right there is something that gets “hidden in plain view” when someone is running the “self love is bad” program.  Folks might think they “love God” and yet haven’t truly mustered or mastered loving themselves yet.  God loves you too and would like you to be the Powerful Creator God/dess that you truly are and He would love to work through you but that’s a bit difficult to do when you don’t love yourself.

Part of that “self love is bad” program involves not trusting yourself.  If there is ANYONE you could stand to trust, it ought to be yourself.  And yep, we’re talking about debilitating programs here so yeah, quite understandable if someone who is disempowered doesn’t trust themselves but can you not see how basic, how fundamental, how foundational Self Love is?  How in the world will you navigate through much of anything if you don’t trust yourself?  Do what is necessary to regain your self-trust.  Healing and Divine Connection are key in that.  They are also key in ascension.  It’s all one and the same.  It’s all a return to Self.

And Fear is the opposite of Love.  Fear, in its many guises, is ultimately the “cause” of all the crap in the world.  Fear had gotten so big in this world that it had taken on a life of its own, become an entity unto itself… almost.  The beauty thing here is that Fear is a really slow frequency, a long wavelength.  Love on the other hand is high frequency, short wavelength.

If you were to see your composite energy field as a signal on an oscilloscope, then superimpose Fear and Love onto your energy field, you’d see how Love would win out.  Love IS winning out in this world.  Fear, being a slow, low frequency, doesn’t touch your energy field as often as the fast, high frequency of Love does, hence Love ultimately has more influence.

There’s an awful lot of “narrative” on narcissism these days.  Actual narcissism can be problematic and the down side of that is more shadow work for some folks to do.

But if YOU are bothered by people who love themselves or even by those who are narcissistic, yep either way, the “bothered by” part is YOURS.  Own it.  That’s the first step towards healing YOUR issue on this.  And ya know, all the narcissists in the world could heal – which you get no say in – and yet that doesn’t mean that YOU will quit being bothered by them – since they also get no say in YOUR healing – their healing won’t mean YOU have healed.  If you don’t address your side of things, then you’ll be stewing on past episodes with narcissists until long past when the cows come home.

And isn’t making someone else’s narcissism all about you, well, isn’t that narcissistic?

*holding up one index finger* while saying, “You” and *circling that finger with the other index finger* while saying, “Universe”.

Like the second of “The Four Agreements”:

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Tell them, “What you think of me is none of my business.”  It will set them back on their heels… but more importantly, it will re-mind yourself that others’ issues, thoughts, words, actions really aren’t about you.  Why make them about you?  Narcissist!  lol  😉

And… if / when you actually heal your issue and quit being bothered by narcissists, watch them no longer even show up in your life… because you don’t need them anymore.    If you need it, it will be there.  If it’s not there, you must not need it.  

Perhaps people who are narcissistic were neglected as children, which psychologists have come to know is the absolute worst form of child abuse, even outweighing physical and sexual abuse because at least those things get them attention.  But with neglect, the child can’t figure out why their parents hate them so very much that they don’t want anything to do with them.

Narcissists and those bothered by narcissists both need to learn to love themselves, to know they ARE love.  It doesn’t come from “out there”.  It comes from “in here”.

But this “narcissism” term is being applied willy-nilly to people who are NOT narcissistic (the wisdom of children: “Point a finger at me, you’ve got 3 more pointing back at you”) but who, yep, they do adore themselves, and why shouldn’t they?!

Can you all not hear / observe the propaganda campaign that the cabal and their mainstream media (msm) stooges are putting out with this?  It’s one of their dying efforts at refreshing the “self love is bad” program.

The New Ager / lightworkers with their “kill the ego” disempowered program is more of the “self love is bad” program.  Ego is just one’s Sense of Self.  Really?  What do you plan to do after you’ve “killed” your Sense of Self?  Do you think that’ll bring you to “collective unity”?  Not hardly.  You don’t even know who YOU are and you think you’re gonna know the next person?

You think SELF SOVEREIGNTY comes from LOSING your Sense of Self?  Really?

The only way I’d care to lose my sense of self is if and when the time comes to just completely let go of my Individuated Soul experience and melt back into the Isness, losing my sentience, no longer existing.

I guess one could drop out the bottom to get to that point too, submitting to their ab-users and along the way to losing their individuated experience, they become some drop in a soulless, homogenized cesspool of human ooze.  What a way to go.

“Self Centered” also gets such a bad rap.  Self Centered – Centered on Self.   And yet where else would one BE centered but on Self?  What?  Should one be centered somewhere “over there”?  And yet many a programmed human does just that – attempts to be centered somewhere outside themselves.  Gee, can’t imagine why they are so off-kilter.  (I’m all for “kilts off” but not off-kilter, lol.)

Self Love, Self Respect, Self Nurturance, Self Healing.  Self Mastery.  Self Realized.  These are the ultimate goals and the starting point all in one.  There’s only so much you can do for others when you’ve not put yourself FIRST.

Make no mistake, YOU are your TOP priority.  You get yourself to that place and then you maintain it.  I understood this years ago.  That’s why I wrote the book on it.  😉

Awake & Aware – Top Priority: Self

… and also why I have been able to serve this ascension project to such a high capacity.  I had my priorities straight.

I’ve carried a photo of myself in my wallet for years.  The only photo I’ve carried.  For a shorter time, but for many years also, there has been a fortune cookie message attached to that photo.  It reads: “Our first and last love is… self love.”

Also see Healthy Selfishness post.